📌 personal read-me
This is a re-draft of an older post for folks who don't already know me too well. There are just a few important personal boundaries that I'd like to ask people to keep in mind when dealing with me.
1. I'm a trans woman.
It's not okay to refer to me using masculine or male-coded language.
2. I'm asexual & sex repulsed.
I am not attracted to you. Don't flirt with me. Don't make me see stuff that's bodily gross or overtly sexual. Basically, if you wouldn't show it to your little sister I don't want to see it!
3. I have have c-PTSD.
Major triggers for me are: drugs, alcohol, death, suicide, self harm, dysphoria, parental abuse, poverty & homelessness. Not exactly small things. All I'm really asking for is common sense use of content warnings.
I have good days and bad days. If it seems like I'm okay with stuff one day and freaking out the next - I'm sorry! It's weird for me too! Please try to be gentle with me, okay?
That's all, thank you so much for reading 💖
some people need to learn that suffering is sometimes just pointless.
There's people who will tell you things like poverty, racism, disability, etc will make you a better person or inculcate you with some kind of higher knowledge.
Some shit just sucks, we were lucky to survive it, and arguing that it ennobled us somehow is really just a way of saying you have no interest in stopping it from happening to others
The Concept That Disenfranchised People Are "Minorities" Is Fake And Bad
like actually,, almost seems like treating Mental Illness, Neurodivergence, Trauma, Abuse, Etcetera as if they are these holy, objective categories that could only possibly affect a limited few, who Properly Qualify, instead of accepting the unfortunate reality that these are things that affect normal people all the time regularly, that their definitions are fluid and hard to quantify and define, was like,,, hmmmm maybe antithetical to the whole point?? maybe actively harmful even???
almost seems like creating a careful metric of whomst is and isn't allowed to claim they have been traumatized, instead of just discussing how trauma works, what it's symptoms are, and what you can do about it, was like. probably not the most helpful thing humans decided to do ever
almost seems like trying to say trauma is "when at least this amount of bad happens to you" instead of a psychological response your brain does sometimes,, was possibly overall not the most helpful way to conceptualize it
I went into a cave with a few flashes, this is how some of that looked
can't decide whether to become a professional outside agitator or just an amateur protest tourist
"whips ass and is basically trans"
- rico (sorta)
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