📌 personal read-me
This is a re-draft of an older post for folks who don't already know me too well. There are just a few important personal boundaries that I'd like to ask people to keep in mind when dealing with me.
1. I'm a trans woman.
It's not okay to refer to me using masculine or male-coded language.
2. I'm asexual & sex repulsed.
I am not attracted to you. Don't flirt with me. Don't make me see stuff that's bodily gross or overtly sexual. Basically, if you wouldn't show it to your little sister I don't want to see it!
3. I have have c-PTSD.
Major triggers for me are: drugs, alcohol, death, suicide, self harm, dysphoria, parental abuse, poverty & homelessness. Not exactly small things. All I'm really asking for is common sense use of content warnings.
I have good days and bad days. If it seems like I'm okay with stuff one day and freaking out the next - I'm sorry! It's weird for me too! Please try to be gentle with me, okay?
That's all, thank you so much for reading 💖
humanities/literary criticism nonsense, further meditations on the gayness of having skin
The Skin is an Anus, Vulnerability is Penetration: Catamites, Emasculation, And Other Heterosexual Masculine Anxieties about Touch Starvation
what I mean by "gender abolition": it is the People's Year of 203. your name is Xalandra. you used to use a different name that nobody calls you. you use xe/xer pronouns. you're taking a low dose of exogenous testosterone after getting an orchiectomy, all of which was free and promptly available under informed consent. you prefer to wear leather harnesses and miniskirts over big boots, and you braid your beard. your 'type' in lovers is tall with big hips, lots of body hair, body mods, and makeup.
you have a friend, Jimmy-Sue, who is "genderfluid," a word that they explain rose in prominence in "gender nonbinary" spaces around the turn of the 21st Century of the Old Regimes. They're really into history and are part of a subculture of lifestyle historical re-enactment hobbyists. Jimmy-Sue knows more about "gender" than you do— they tell yoy prior to the People's Era, access to things like clothes, cosmetics, exogenous hormones, name changes and certain body mods were gated on 'gender'.
hey it's pride month so i'm gonna make a new post for my gofundme!!
my surgery is scheduled for april 8th and i am SO excited! we are saving as much as we are able, but i still need help sharing this around and if you have a couple bucks to donate that would be cool too! i'm so super grateful for the support i've received so far, i really can't say how much this means to me. y'all have my heart forever
"whips ass and is basically trans"
- rico (sorta)
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