It doesn't mean that your irritation can't be addressed, but framing it differently would probably be more productive.
Also making something more accessible (despite how people have responded to some of my design work) is not always a universal plus. Different modes and options are necessary in many cases.
Study confirms serious health problems, high trauma rates among unsheltered people in U.S.
i have a lot of thoughts, meta
personally i think the worst part about fedi is how because most of us have heard of eachother, everything is so deeply personal
we dont really have parasocial relationships, because we all talk regularly, everyone is probably a friend of a friend.
and whats hard about that is when someone bullies someone else
because like, theyre your friend. and youre afraid of losing them if you speak out against them, and especially your Whole Fucking Friendgroup, since they will likely side with your friend. not to mention how, when someone close to you fucks up, most people dont even question if that person did so in proper judgement, because "theyre a good person, they couldnt possibly hurt someone for no reason"
and you know, when you do that, when youre willfully ignorant or even just silently complacent, you create a power dynamic. a power dynamic that says "if my friend fucks up, the victim gets no support." and this is EXTREMELY common on fedi.
as a victim of one of the most infamous bullies on mastodon, ive seen it right front and center. people would AGREE with me that they were a shitbag, but you know, its not a big deal and it was just a joke and you should just get over it we're all friends here dont be so sensitive etc etc etc etc
and im NOT telling you, you know, break off all your friendships with everyone whos ever been shitty. im just saying, dont defend your friends shitty behavior. not criticizing them, and giving them a social cushion, will just 1. give them an excuse not to learn and 2. give them the opportunity to hurt other people and 3. gives them the knowledge they can do whatever the fuck they want with little to no backlash from those close to them
with this dynamic, those friends you claim to care about are going to just get worse and worse, and nothing is ever going to get better. if you care about people, you dont just let them get away with being fucking terrible, god awful people. doing that is what allowed these people to become as toxic and terrible as they were with extremely little consequence.
and please, let me tell you, if you feel like calling your friends out on their shit will cause everyone to come down on you, YOU ARE IN A TOXIC DYNAMIC and you deserve to not have to worry about getting booted. i know its scary, and ive had to do that several times over. but you will be better off for it, with friends who genuinely care about you and your wellbeing
What if queer horror, by which I don't mean queer-coded serial killers.
You wake up in a different body that isn't you. Your life is otherwise just the same, but everyone treats you as if you've always had this body and as if you're weird for thinking it's different.
You're trying to navigate telling your family about a secret, but somewhere between one and all of your family is actually evil and will do something terrible if they know and you have to figure out who's safe to tell.
Ableism in academia, food issues
Like, my food restrictions are literally a part of my disability and should not be something I have to be ashamed of and hide because they mean I can't be a "real" anthropologist.
They shouldn't mean I can't ever participate in any programs or do any research.
I shouldn't have to engage with people in neurotypical ways for it to be valid
ADHD trick/piano practice
One thing thats helped me a lot recently is just let myself sit down and play something or work on a peice I want to play even if I dont have time or focus to practice everything. Then if I do actually do the intentional sit down to practice I can fill in the gaps and I feel less shame about it not happening when I forget. Some practice on sone peices is better than none! And its actually changing my emotional response to the idea of practice so I want to sit more!
Chicago comrades turned out last night at Ohare airport, to make a visible display of the fact that the fate of everyone fighting with the YPG/YPJ in Rojava affects us deeply, politically and ethically.
Turkey’s genocide is a despicable and unforgivable atrocity #riseup4rojava https://twitter.com/igd_news/status/1183472467358162947
ableism, tech, politics kinda, rant
even if it is avoidable, preferable or ethical for some, it's still ableist that people insist that those who need techological tools in order to function and/or survive should just somehow do without.
which more or less is what corporations tell disabled people all the time. there was a huge planned (and mismanaged) power outage in california this week, and the power company's response to people who depend on technology to survive was "go by a generator, you have 48 hours notice".
ableism, tech, politics kinda, rant
Reminder that if you think technology is just bad in itself and just doing without it is edgy or punk or whatever, you're probably being ableist.
I wear spectacles for my eyesight, and an exoskeleton on some joints, and have been pretty dependent on a bicycle as a mobility aid at various points in my life (and expect to be again). When I get to the point where leaving the house means using a powerchair, then I'll do that too.
Things like Alexa or whatever aren't terrible simply because they are convenient, it isn't immoral to find that some services make life easier. What is immoral is organising our society in such a way that the easiest and most accessible way for many people, especially oppressed people, to get things they need is to use corporations that treat people so badly.
And yes, boycotts can be part of reorganising things, but I'm still not going to ask e.g. my blind friend to stop using Amazon.
If you center Black Jews and Jews of Color in your thinking about Judaism/Jewishness, you can begin to piece together how anti-Judaism and antisemitism led to the creation of White Supremacy, but more importantly, you can begin to piece together an overarching theory of Diasporic studies that includes Jewish history AND the African Diaspora, you see the falseness of distinctions between peoples, which is to say the falseness of borders, and the richness of points of contact.
Crimethinc: Worldwide, the far right seems to be trying to co-opt “anti-war” rhetoric the same way they appropriated “anti-globalization” slogans, while actually intensifying military aggression and capitalism. This is the same looking-glass-world right-wing “isolationism” that we saw when Hitler was annexing territory in Europe. We seem to have progressed very rapidly from repeating the early 1930s to re-enacting the later 1930s.
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