If you purposefully use a transgender person's deadname as a low blow when you're upset at them you are being a trash person no excuses.

Playing rugby is not the same as cheating at soccer.

There. Now you understand polyamory.

One of my deeper, less realistic fantasies is for the process of having an item delivered to my home to end with that item being delivered to my home.

That feeling when you're writing an extra scene to draw out the beginning of your novel a bit and accidentally invent a new character who is super important to one of your protagonists who now has to feature in other scenes later or her disappearance won't make any sense.

That writing life.

Truly, it is criminal that we went with calling the tanuki the "raccoon dog" in English instead of calling the raccoon the "tanuki badger."

That feeling when you're writing an extra scene to draw out the beginning of your novel a bit and accidentally invent a new character who is super important to one of your protagonists who now has to feature in other scenes later or her disappearance won't make any sense.

That writing life.

Excerpt from a government tender I'm reading:

"An extensive dyke network protects the floodplain areas and provides recreation opportunities."

This right here is why Anglophones usually spell the one that's about controlling floodwaters "dike."

Entering a cultural festival feels like coming home, and leaving it feels like pulling out literal and figurative roots and rejoining the urban silence, a piece always staying behind.

Rocko's Modern Life special. What my heart needed today.

Hilda.

Gravity Falls with Steven Universe's heart and She-Ra's competence.

11/10 highly recommend.

Second round of peanut butter chocolate chip cookies turned out better than the first :)

Busing on weekends is how I slough off any excess optimism that I might have accidentally accumulated during the previous week.

Welp, today's fishing trip hooked me nothing but two kayaks, some awkward conversations with the people in those kayaks, and some algae, but I'm making progress in understanding my sexual response, so, that's pleasant.

Some of these items are staying in storage, not ready for the irrevocable moment in which I dispose of them or the emotional exposure of joining their less fraught kin on my shelves. Some of them are now earmarked for clothing swaps, memory averted, better served by finding new homes instead of lingering in the shadows of mine. And some of them, in a moment of finality I have long, long awaited, are ready for the bin. They shall have no more claim on my heart, and I shall take my much-loved scissor to one more thread holding me to the past. I have thanked them for their hideous service, and it is done.

My head is spinning, and I have secured one more drop of freedom.

It is a good day.

A stack of photo albums I still don't have the emotional reserves to page through were in there, photos my parents took at various events at various times, built on memories that aren't mine and tied to the ones that are. Some of them bring up anger, others sadness, others nostalgia, and others the empty sensation of those events having meant something to the people who took those photos, people who will never understand what gives a thing meaning in my mind and so will never take a photograph that doesn't feel this way.

The last few gifts and mementos of a failed relationship, its death throes, its rage spasms. The last time I looked at these, they brought me to tears, too many disparate emotions for their sum to look any other way.

It is time. I am ready.

My old suit was in there, a backstop against the nightmare world in which I'm cornered back into [deadname]'s empty husk, a danger that felt all too real.

My old dance shoes were in there, trapped in the emotional hinterland between "I will probably never use these again" and "these helped me find myself," where sending them on their way is an admission that I may never dance again like I did then and a forced confrontation with the dance-shaped contradiction in my heart.

Last night, I decided I was ready to take stock of the two boxes on the bottom of my curio shelf that I think of as "haunted mementos." The boxes have been sitting for the better part of two years, because their contents seemed both too important to discard and too fraught to keep. There were photo albums in those boxes, and things that were big parts of my life pre-transition, and the most personal leavings of a relationship that went down in flames.

I have avoided interacting with these boxes. Three different traumas and three different anxieties lived there, unresolved and raw.

Before you disclose your transness to your relatives, dig two graves: one for the versions of them that don't accept you, the other for the part of you that they'll wrench out of you if they don't.

May you find that you can seal them both while they're still full of nothing but unfulfilled possibility.

We are forged in dying stars, weighty things who shall not bend.
The cosmic furnaces sputter to nothing, but we remain.

In brighter news, a guy on a bike lost his balance and almost fell over because he was ogling me.

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