all right, so i've had a lot going on lately, and i think it's time i talk about it, get it off my chest (thread)

also sry "feminity" isn't actually what i mean here. more like "your rejection of being masculinized". i kno being or desiring to be feminine is not a universal experience for trans people who do not want to be masculinized this is a binary thought pattern i am working on breaking out of lol

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we all (including cis women) are taught sexism, and we all (again including cis women) have oppurtunities to participate in it for our own selfish reasons. it is a Communal, Societal obligation to reject that. your feminity is something beautiful and powerful,Not something you should be pressured into performing to be "less toxic"

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i guess my one final thing that i do want to be a little bit cautious about wording bc it's not My Personal Experience; i do think this mindset is Super Harmful to amab trans people also. it is similar to the concept of the like "original sin" lmao whereby you are toxic simply by virtue of being madculinized. your assigned gender is not an evil, harmful part of you u must outgrow, just like my actual gender (male) isn't an evil harmful part of me i must combat

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more thoughts on the gender take, some caps 

to men but that's a sep. issue that i think is actually understood pretty well). the Final really harmful thing i think this all does, is, by associating feminism with feminine experiences, it makes being a feminist a "female" thing WHICH WE HAVE LITERALLY BEEN TRYING TO FUCKING DECONSTRUCT FOR FUCKING DECADES LMAO like. it's another one of those things where, in a roundabout way (and sure 4 dif reasons) uve ended up just saying what the patriarchy says

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more thoughts on the gender take 

it is uhh, Fairly Often pointed put that trans men can be sexist [big πŸ€” on this one lol] but not as frequently noted that cis women and other trans people can also be sexist. there is of course a slight difference; men (including trans and gay men) can benefit from the patriarchy, while feminized people are Always harmed by it (though there's another point here about how some cis and binary women can recieve benefits from it while it is also harmful in ways (cont)

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more thoughts on the gender take 

it implies that feminism is not something everyone can and Must *choose* to learn about, but is instead something you inherently learn by being feminized. this is really bad because, like the idea that you can't be ableist if you are disabled, it erases the fact that we All have internalized sexism, *and* that people who are Not cis men can and do participate in upholding the patriarchy

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more thoughts on the gender take 

i'm personally grossed out by this because it gets dangerously close to a huge problem in the queer community; valuing trans men for the ways we are involuntarily feminized. but aside from that it touches on a major part of why i think this viewpoint is So Fucking Toxic: it implies that feminism is something inherent to people who are Not Men, and/or are feminized by society

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more thoughts on the gender take 

a lot of people have, entirely correctly, pointed out how this mindset harms trans men i do think that may unintentionally stop some people who've fallen into this mindset from realizing they need to analyze it. that's because a large percentage of them excuse trans men from this, because trans men are also feminized/experience misogyny

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possibly slightly spicy gender take 

masculinity is not parallel to whiteness in that rejecting it is a necessary part of becoming radicalized

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possibly slightly spicy gender take 

if it's your personal reason for being trans that's absolutely fine but moralizing the concept of being trans in general is bad actually. i think

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possibly slightly spicy gender take 

the way some of you talk about being trans implies that the only way to reject what you consider to be the inherent toxicity of masculinity is by being trans and i think that's highkey fucked up

So, I recently got on a podcast hosted by Pluto Press to talk about Transgender Marxism and my chapter in it. I also talk about dive bars, olympic athletes and why I'm not comfortable with radical feminism as a whole.

Enjoy: plutobooks.com/blog/podcast-tr

[when you're friends say or do shit that's fucked up] niceness is letting them sweep it under the rug, kindness is challenging them on it and pushing them to do better

[when you're friends say or do shit that's fucked up] niceness is letting them sweep it under the rug, kindness is challenging them on it and pushing them to do better

Selfies, eye contact 

@PurpleRose wow that looks really really pretty on you ☺️

Selfies, eye contact 

So I wore this newer, floral-printed blouse to a party last night.

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