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I just lost my bff. 😒 

Today I'm allowing myself to be heartbroken and angry, so bear with me as it may cause me to be hypersensitive and angry. Someone I called my best friend, whom I was planning a whole ass future with, showed me a side to them last night I hadn't seen before. Trampled all over my boundaries, tried to make me decide between respecting them or myself, and then openly mocked me with something I'd just got finished telling them was a personal trigger, more than once.

Sorry, but they will never win that ultimatum. I excommunicated my best friend from high school and health proxy for much less. I'm allowing myself to fully sit with this pain so it doesn't end up being swallowed down to turn septic.

Love & Boundaries 

Conditional love is only demonized in a society run by abusers. The truth is, your love can absolutely be conditional, it's normal and healthy. Nobody should be so comfortable with you that they feel they can disrespect you without consequence. Guard your boundaries ferociously. If anyone makes you choose between respecting them or yourself, your choice should be abundantly clear.

Trauma disconnects you from yourself, and so you end up subconsciously trying to fix yourself through others, and it never, ever works that way.
Healing = reconnection with the only person on this whole earth you can fix- yourself.

Free e-book alert! Here is a link to download a PDF copy of "Good And Cheap: Eat Well On $4/Day" by Leanne Brown (@leelb on twitter)

Liberals and China- cringe and not OC 

Script: How to be an honest liberal:

Instead of "China is authoritarian", say: "I have a paper thin understanding of politics"

Instead of "China is committing genocide", say: "I trust far right conspiracy theories"

Instead of "Hate China, not the people", say, "I have a white savior complex"

Instead of "There's no free speech in China", say "I have never talked to a Chinese person"

Instead of "US is bad but China is worse", say, "I acknowledge my govt is horribly corrupt but I still believe everything they tell me about China"

I'm still kinda new here. What does it mean to be "defedded"?

Seven Types of Rest:
β€’ Physical Rest: Napping, sitting, deep breathing
β€’ Mental Rest: Meditation, daily affirmations
β€’ Emotional Rest: Talk to a trusted friend, self-care
β€’ Sensory Rest: "Digital Detox", sit in silence
β€’ Creative Rest: Poetry, play, dance, paint
β€’ Spiritual Rest: Prayer, scripture, journaling
β€’ Social Rest: Balance time alone & time with others

How much of each do you allow yourself? On which level do you think you could do better?

Reminder that we only pay for research if it's profitable. People need to start building rainwater filtration systems now.

I love bunnymichael on instagram lmao
I'd also like to see your answers

Massive fuckturd of transphobia, homophobia, bigotry out the yinyang but it's need-to-know shit the nazis are up to on kiwi farms and 4chan re: the super straights calamity they're calling a psyop 

It's literally the ss symbol. This kind of headass nonsense is only remotely possible because libs and centrists take everything at face value. My stomach is a trainwreck and I I need to lie down but ffs this shit's been going on for over a week. Why??? 😩
Anyway, share or whatever to get the word out about these clowns

Tw for my pitta temper 

Among all this, our fuckass governor finally got outed as the sexual predator that he is, frickin Andrew Yang is running for mayor, and almost everyone I know is still ordering stuff from Amazon even though their workers are on strike. If you do this, you're a class traitor! Fuck your entire family lineage!!
I've been sick as a dog all day and have not a single fuck to give about anything.

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NY drama update:

Today, the CARES Act pandemic unemployment payments ran out. Nobody can get through to file their last week of benefits over the phone, the site has been down for days. People are fuming. Thousands of claims are still in limbo from the middle of last year. Tons of other people received benefits they weren't eligible for through no fault of their own but are now required to pay it back (we're talking thousands of dollars) or go to jail. It's a mess. The Dept of Labor knew their system was antiquated for years; nothing was said or done about it, and people are quite literally dying. We have almost a million people on the streets, in hotels, or in shelters right now. It's going to be below freezing tonight.

To add insult to injury, even though taxes have been carved out of our weekly payments this entire time, many residents are finding that they still owe large amounts of taxes to the state for receiving those payments.

Burn down the American plantation.

Nyotaimuri, now with 8000% more 'murca 

This is too good not to share on here πŸ˜‚

Descrip: "This incense is totally gonna solve all my problems"
In my defense, when I burn camphor, my roommates stop fighting.


Heidi came through, I take back what I said about her, she decided my free gmail (plus a protonmail account, ffs) was enough. So now I can email people. Hella!

Bluehost is what my nonprofit job uses, it's $5.95 per month for 36 months. That's $214 but divided by 3 years, that's only $71 per year, as opposed to the $114 that WordPress wants.
Bluehost comes with a business email included plus unlimited data and websites, customer support, free CDN and SSL certificate. The domain is only free for 1 out of the 3 years, which is weird. I may end up paying WordPress for the additional 2 years because $8 isn't a bad price.
There are other factors to consider tho; when you buy a domain, the details of your domain registration must by law be published to the public WHOIS and RDAP directories. The registrars you pay to host your site should give you access to edit the details as needed, but a lot of them charge an "admission fee" which is gross. I gotta make sure they don't do that.

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Fuck google, too 

You know this is just an attempt to make their rich clients feel special. But you can't do that without making yourself look elitist and grody. If they want to incentivize that upgrade, they'll make their "Standard Support" near useless, which means it isn't worth paying for at all. I have absolutely no time for that horse shit.

When you call Vanguard bank, first thing you'll notice is that there is no "press 1 for english" option. There are no other options- this is to appeal to the racist whites who think "American" is a language. Also one of the first things the recording asks is for you to press a certain number depending on how much you have invested in them. That's clearly elitist, meant to get the richer clients better service and make the poors wait longer on hold. Same energy, and I have to be more discriminatory with my money. Fuck google, but also, fuck Vanguard.

I'mma just pay WordPress $18/yr + $8/m for my custom domain which is $114 per year. 🀷🏻

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Fuck google, too 

Literally wtf does any of this mean?
What is "Standard Support", and why should anyone pay to "upgrade" it? As a customer this is hella shady. Also, free screen recording apps and extensions make the ability to record meetings moot. Please don't ever pay for that.
"Enterprise" is so expensive they can't even put the price on screen. There's nothing less appealing than the idea of having to call to find out a price. Fuck all the way off with this shit

My bad 

It's $6/month, not $5. In a few months it might be $7. Google is a monolith, they can do whatever tf they want

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The four words that will cause me to navigate away from your page the quickest 

"Start Your Free Trial!"

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This is why you need a p.o. box. When you file for an LLC you need an address in the state you're filing in, and you must publish it in a local paper. Lots of people rent p.o. boxes in Albany because it's the cheapest, and still technically in NY State. It's $90-ish per year.

Sounds manageable, but drops in a bucket add up. Web domain, email marketing, annual fees for a registered agent (non-negotiable) plus all the taxes/fees for applications, and then once you get all this shit handled, you need to pay taxes quarterly, which means more accountant fees. NY requires newly formed LLCs to publish a notice of formation in local newspapers, which can potentially cost around $1,500 or more.

I need limited liability insurance because I sell herbal teas. This could open me up for a lawsuit if someone gets sick, even if it isn't my tea that caused it. That costs between $350 to $1,000 per year.

Drops in a bucket.

This is an intentional bar to entry, by the way, just so we're clear.

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